Good going, Mark. The $100 was not the main issue in your situation and you done good.
The only trouble with confronting someone is you never know who you're dealing with and whether or not the situation could get ugly/violent. But since we've seen that the police are uninterested in pursuing such matters then what choice does one have?
As far as Ebay goes...make sure you leave negative feedback and describe as fully as possible what he tried to pull......even if he leaves retaliatory negative feedback you've got to warn other people. Also, contact ebay at
[email protected] and describe in detail what happend. They will say they can't get involved yadda yadda but if they have other similar complaints they will shut him down.
I sell a lot of stuff on ebay and occassionally get someone who says they didn't get their stuff and makes all kinds of threats. Almost always it is a misunderstanding of some kind and resolves itself in time but there was one time the other person was trying to pull a fast one.
The best way to handle it is by saying: "Check with your local post office as maybe a delivery notice was overlooked or not sent out. Also, check with neighbours in case it was delivered to them by mistake. I'm sorry i can't be responsible for packages that get lost in the mail. You had the option of insurance but declined. If you review my feedback you will see i am a very honest seller and can confirm your package was shipped to the address you indicated. If you honestly feel i have cheated you then you are free to leave negative feedback. I must advise you that i will be obliged to do the same to you to indicate that you claim you have not received your goods. Many buyers try this ploy in order to get a refund from the seller and others need to be advised. Please let me know if i can be of help. Regards....."
Unless they truly feel cheated they won't bother to leave negative, they realize they have zero chance of getting any money out of me and will just drop it...